For those of you following my blog, I have talked about two cousins who are currently dealing with cancer. One has esophageal cancer, who was receiving chemo and radiation – YEAH!! His treatments are now done. My other cousin was in the process of being evaluated for cancer…
Up until June 15th, I was living my “normal” life – overnight – everything changed.
A month ago,…my cousin was functioning in her life with her husband. Retired…working in her yard. Living her life.
She developed pain in her spine and difficulty walking which led to a doctor visit. More follow up revealed three “areas” next to her spine – where she had had prior surgery – so this could be scar tissue. She was pending follow up on looking at these areas closer. Due to cardiac problem and low potassium, she was admitted to the hospital. During her hospitalization, further studies revealed areas on her lung, liver, adrenal gland, bone, and spine. Chemo was started. She went home only to return to the hospital with pneumonia. My cousin died Friday night.
Less than one month after finding “possible” cancer…she died from metastatic cancer, I am still in shock.
“The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone”….
—- Harriet Beecher Stowe
“She never knew how I loved her” “He never knew what he meant to me” “I always meant to spend more time with you” “I always meant to make more of our friendship” “I should have taken the time to…”
How much more we might make of our family, life and/or friendships, if every secret thought of love blossomed into words that were spoken or deeds that were done.
Setting Life Priorities
It’s really easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. We are all busy and have a million thigs going on in our lives. We try to balance our responsibilities and sometimes it seems like we can’t even breathe – as new responsibilities are added to our already full list.
Life can be very hectic when you are living in reaction mode and always trying to “put out fires”.
When was the last time you took time to define your priorities? When was the last time you sat down with your loved one and discussed your individual and family priorities?
Webster’s defines priority as when something is “more important than something else”. There is a hierarchy when it comes to priorities. Things are not equally important. Something is always more important than another thing.
This is important to understand because sometimes we may be tempted to “do it all”. We want to get a promotion, start a business, lose wight, increase our income, start an exercise program, spend more time with family/friends, volunteer, travel, make contact with an old friend, etc. But when we try to do it all we end up doing nothing because we get overwhelmed and then frustrated.
We can’t do it all – that’s why we need to set priorities.
We try to “balance” our lives and give equal time, energy and attention to everything in our lives – but that is not how priorities work.
When you try to balance all the areas of your life equally, you end up spreading yourself thin and you get average, mediocre results. It’s much better to focus on one area to prioritize until you get results than trying to balance everything at once. When you focus, you are able to go all in one area and get big results.
If we don’t take the time to define what’s important to us, then we may end up digging ourselves in a hole that does not align without values or what’s important to us.
And life will go on around you … and without you.